Saturday, February 28, 2015

Waiting for Two Good Hands

It’s been 6 weeks since I had surgery on my hand and wrist for tenosynovitis (swollen tendon sheath).  Luckily it’s not my dominant hand but I have certainly gained an appreciation for having two good hands.

Pain and swelling aside, I have found this experience to be frustrating and tiring.  I had to wear a brace for 6 weeks.  Some of my clothes simply would not fit over it.  Buttoning, zipping, and pulling on clothes are challenging activities.  My husband had to fasten my bra for me.  (What if I lived alone?)  He got so good at it that he said he ought to hire himself out.  Um. . .no.

Getting in and out of the car, putting on the seat belt, and of course, driving, all take a lot more work.  Cooking is impossible but I could use the microwave.  I couldn’t open a jar.  Luckily my husband can cook; we have eaten out a lot more than usual.  We had a few days of nice weather, but I couldn’t ride my bike.  And no puttering in the yard.


The brace is now off, but the hand and wrist are swollen and stiff.  I am looking at weeks of physical therapy.  I am so thankful that this is only temporary and that I can look forward to once again having two good hands.



Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Just Add the Words, Idaho

I wrote this for the Reconciling Ministries Network; it appeared in the RMN Blog today.  




As we stood near the doors of the Ada County Courthouse last October, same-sex couples walked out with smiles on their faces and marriage licenses in hand.  Each couple was cheered as they walked out of the building and down the stairs into the crowd.  Same-sex marriage was now legal in Idaho.  What joy there was!

However, these newlyweds can go to work wearing their wedding rings and be fired for being gay.  In Idaho LGBT people have no protection from being fired, losing their housing, or being denied public accommodation for simply being who they are.  For 9 years an organization called Add the Words, Idaho has been working to add the words “sexual orientation” and “gender identity” to the Idaho Human Rights Act but the Republican leadership of the Idaho Legislature refused to even allow a public hearing.  The movement has grown over the years.  Last year four of us from Hillview UMC were among the first 44 people to be arrested for civil disobedience at the Idaho State Capitol.  More church members became active plus I pulled together other people of faith to form the Interfaith Equality Coalition.

Finally, at the beginning of the legislative session in January, a public hearing was held.  The bill was sent to the House State Affairs Committee, the least likely committee to pass it on.  I spent a good portion of that week at the Statehouse sitting through about 17 hours of the 21 total hours of testimony.  The stories of harm were heartbreaking: bullying, suicides, beatings, loss of jobs, being kicked out of public places, denial of housing, fear, hiding, and more.  It was also difficult to listen to the opposition, especially the vitriol and misinformation coming from other Christians, including pastors.  Someone commented that we didn't hear any atheists standing up there in opposition.  We had hoped, by some miracle, that they would vote to pass it on to the entire House for a vote but in the end the vote was down party lines—13 Republicans against moving it on and 4 Democrats for it.  While we expected this, it was disappointing that not one mind was changed.

I was extremely proud of the LGBT people and their families who stood up in public and told such personal stories of discrimination and harm.  I was also proud of our coalition clergy and other members who testified.  We had additional clergy in religious attire sitting in the audience to observe the hearing and to be seen.  After all of the harm done by churches, our LGBT people really appreciate their support.  The Interfaith Equality Coalition is holding prayer vigils every Wednesday in front of the Capitol.  I plan to work on expanding our coalition statewide.  The Add the Words Coalition (about 12 groups, including our coalition) met the afternoon of the vote.  More than half of the people around the table were LGBT—there was a lot of pain.  It's hard but we are not done.  We are all looking at next steps. 


Have we made progress?  Getting a hearing after 9 years is a step.  It does seem that our civil disobedience and protests made an impact.  We had hoped that a bill would be introduced on the Senate side but lawmakers have announced that no new Add the Words bill will be introduced this session.  Some activists have said that this gives us time to get more lawmakers comfortable with the legislation.   But for people who have waited so long and are being hurt, it is hard to be patient.  It's personal.  All I can say to them is that I, along with other people of faith, stand with you.  We’re not done yet.